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AJ ([personal profile] isozyme) wrote2019-02-14 09:23 am
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gay stuff

i was talking the other day about how being gay is pretty frictionless for me these days, generally comfortable and easy, and I don't know why I'm so compelled to write about being gay and being in a place that's hostile to those of us who aren't straight

and my wife asked me point-blank "what name to you use at work"

the name i use at work is not the same one i use with my friends, folks

that's not a thing i think about every day.  it's just how it is.  a battle i didn't want to fight.  a thing -- hah -- that i don't feel comfortable dragging myself through in public.  not at work.  nope.

so that's revealing, i suppose






sorry for not posting/responding to comments for a while, i have a deadline that's killing me and a fanfiction that is EATING MY BRAIN so i haven't been in the headspace for bloggin'.  i'm wondering if i can use light grey text to give myself back some whisperspace?  i don't know if it'll work, we'll see.  i miss tags.
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[personal profile] hopelesse 2019-02-14 07:14 pm (UTC)(link)
......that was, uh, rather blunt of me, wasn't it. but it's true -- being out and gay is easier now than it's ever been, but that doesn't mean it's easy. there's still always going to be places where it's obvious that there's a normal and we aren't it. i really do think that if you wanted to go for a name change at work, most people would be chill. but, hey, you're gonna be out of there soon enough either way <3
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[personal profile] isozyme 2019-02-16 09:36 pm (UTC)(link)
i know they'd all be cool with it, is the kicker! somehow the whole ordeal still doesn't feel doable right now.

some days being a homo is exhausting. at some point i'll write more extremely randy lesbian porn to comfort myself. fingerbanging and pussy eating solve all woes, amiright?
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[personal profile] spikethemuffin 2019-02-15 06:29 pm (UTC)(link)
:looks guiltily at the entries that obfuscate crush's gender:
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[personal profile] spikethemuffin 2019-02-15 06:33 pm (UTC)(link)
ON my blog, not yours. (I have one commenter who is super! cool! with the gay... except that every time I talk about it, there's always a "problem" that is not about gay, it's about oversharing. Or tackiness. Or being "more worldly."

And I know I shouldn't let one exhausting guy shape my discourse, but... sigh.
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[personal profile] isozyme 2019-02-16 09:40 pm (UTC)(link)
the whole thing i'm feeling is that it just IS sometimes the one irritating reaction that means you can't handle Another Gay Hurdle.

don't feel guilty about being too tired! the world is fucking exhausting.
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[personal profile] manyblinkinglights 2019-02-15 10:54 pm (UTC)(link)
+1 like
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[personal profile] chickiedeare 2019-02-16 01:50 am (UTC)(link)
<3

(I really like the grey for whisperspace. it's something i liked a lot when i was using tumblr for more confessional purposes and am trying to figure out here)
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[personal profile] isozyme 2019-02-16 09:34 pm (UTC)(link)
i think it works? the grey makes it feel like tumblr tags and i'm going to call that close enough for government work.
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